Leadership and change

Whenever I think of change I turn to courage. It’s courage that drives change and helps us to take forward steps. Irrespective of whether I have my private or professional life in mind, the concept of the “Player and Victim” game comes to me as a very good inspiration. This is a game developed by Fred Kofman who allowed me to share it on my web page. It’s a simple set of questions to be asked each time we have to make our own ”After Action Review”. It’s a type of examination of conscience for each of us when we should think of past actions with view to the future.

One can be a Player and ask:

    1. 1. What challenge did I face?


    1. 2. How did I respond?


    1. 3. What didn’t work?


    1. 4. Could I have done something better or with more integrity?


    1. 5. Could I have prepared better (to minimize the risk or limit the impact)?


    1. 6. Can I do something now to improve the situation?


    1. 7. What lesson can I learn from the experience?

Or one rather prefers to be a Victim and play a game as follows:

    1. 1. What happened to me?


    1. 2. Who wronged me? How?


    1. 3. What should they have done?


    1. 4. What should they do now to fix it?


    1. 5. What punishment do they deserve?

The choice is ours and this happens to be one of my favourite games. It’s about courage and positive statement: sometimes you win, sometimes you… learn.

The change is about a desired state and aware journey. When I think of inducing change, gradual and conscious education comes to mind. The concept comes from psychology and is called: optimal difference. The said deviation is defined by the maximum scope of new information that the listener is ready to absorb and internalize at a given moment. It’s like taming a fox and making a friendship. One can make a step forward every day but the trick is how to make this effective. One needs the ability to see a little further and for me, slow is fast!


“You must be very patient,” replied the fox. “First you will sit down at a small distance from me-like that–in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye and you will say nothing. (….) . Yet every day, you will sit a little closer to me…”

“The Little Prince”– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry